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A pressure-relief valve about God, and just about everything else.

HELP! And Read the Other Stuff, Too.

I need help. I am a struggling musician. I make what some would consider a decent living, and what yet others would call nothing! I want to do more, but I am in a field that is totally dependent upon knowing someone on the other side of the door. I want to make records. I want to write song lyrics. I absolutely love the art of making music.

I also love words and the clever employment of them. So I write. I would like to do it on a professional basis as well. I take care of my baby son (another one is on the way!) during the day while my wife works, and she does so at night when I gig. Writing would give me much more flexibility as far as practicing and taking gigs I don’t want to take because I need the money. I have musical standards, but having to eat and live indoors makes me step all over them!

 I started this blog at the advice of a friend and church member who suggested it as a way to build up a following of sorts. I have posted a lot of things on subjects about which I am passionate, such as Christianity, parenting, politics, race, and various other social issues. The problem is that the only things that get read are the posts I write about crooked preachers. That is fine, in and of itself. Apologetics is a passion of mine, and blogging about charlatan preachers gives me the perfect opportunity to defend God and Christianity. I HATE to see people deceived and treated unjustly! Those guys need  the literary butt-whuppins they get, and more. And I love it when I get either an “amen,” or a challenge from a supporter of that mess.

My current dilemma is that while I feel that the primary purpose of this blog is to enlighten, entertain, and educate people, to the extent that I can, I need for the other things to be read as well. I need feedback and assistance in my endeavors, as we all do. I am not the boldest person in the world. As a matter of fact, this blog (and ESPECIALLY this particular post) is perhaps the most forthright thing I’ve ever done in my life. Even asking my wife to marry me was kind of easy, because I knew she was gonna say yes!

I need an advocate. Like an actor needs a manager. I can do the artistic stuff. I can stand on the stage and play because there is a thin veneer of separation that exists, however unnoticeable, between it and the audience for me. This is the mechanism I use in order to be able to perform effectively. I can hide behind my horn. I can write things that express emotion for essentially the same reasons.

But I am not the kind of person who can go from door to door trying to sell vacuum cleaners, or whole life insurance policies. (Don’t buy “Whole Life,” by the way…) I need some help in the marketing of myself. My (flawed?) thinking is that the gift will make a way for me, that these words and stories and turns of phrases will speak for whatever ability I may possess. My thinking is that if I play well enough, or arrange cool enough horn parts– which I do as well– someone will engage me in some fashion. Apparently, I am wrong.

So if you are reading this and feel that, “Man! THAT guy needs to put this stuff in a BOOK!” Or that, “Man! I am a literary agent (or an editor), and I see a market for this kind of stuff!” leave at least a comment. And if you happen to be a musician who can’t write lyrics, let me know. I feel really awkward doing this, but that may just be my paranoia gene kicking in. The art of self-promotion is not one in which I am trained.

At the very least, don’t just read the stuff I’ve written about the false teachers,  Juanita Bynum, Creflo Dollar, Paula White, Kenneth Copeland, or the Word of Faith prosperity movement. Read about my time onstage and my thoughts on parenthood, morality, and life in general, too. And tell me (and many, many others) what you think. Thanks, Derrick, the Daddy of Max.

See how I threw those “tags” in there to justify drawing you here? Was it not subtle enough? Thanks for indulging me. I thought it was funny… Sorry for the subterfuge. Not trying to be disingenuous.

October 18, 2007 - Posted by | Christianity, Columns, Creflo Dollar, Employment, False Teachers, Humor, Juanita Bynum, Kenneth Copeland, Opportunity, Paula White, Prosperity Gospel, Recording Industry, Word of Faith, Writing


  1. I don’t know if this will mean anything to you, but I am a regular reader. I have you subscribed on my google reader, as a matter of fact. I don’t comment much (maybe only once or twice here) mainly because I don’t feel I have much to add to what you’ve already said. You are a much better, more articulate speaker than I, so I feel intimidated sometimes to comment. There are only so many times I can say ‘Preach it, brother!’ without feeling stupid! Make any sense?

    At any rate, I wanted to know you have a fan in me! Unfortunately I have no ties whatsoever in the music or literary world, but I do think you write very well and frankly, I would read your book if you ever wrote one!! 🙂

    Comment by missy | October 18, 2007 | Reply

  2. That means everything! I appreciate that so much! I’m completely undone! I am glad to hear from you again! Your comments are just about all I need to let me know I’m on the right track. And there is NO need for intimidation! I am the least threatening person I know! For the most part. You made my day today!

    It’s just that my pastor and my best friend were talking about me, and the pastor wondered, I guess, why I wasn’t doing more with what he felt were the talents I was given. (I play at my church, as well)It is just frustrating to know that my chosen fields are so dependent upon the help of others for my ultimate goals to be met. And artistic folk are not by nature the extroverted types that salesmen and others are. It is hard sometimes. I don’t need praise so much as I need to know that I’m not one of those “American Idol” contestants who think they got it going on, but really REALLY don’t. Thanks a lot. Derrick.

    Comment by maxdaddy | October 18, 2007 | Reply

  3. D,
    You know I’m behind you, brother. You and your family are very special and I know that God is in the process of doing something great in and through you. Whatever I can do, I will.

    Comment by Rob | October 18, 2007 | Reply

  4. Hello Maxdaddy,

    I, too, am an avid reader of your blog. I find all your postings insightful, thought-provoking, candid, genuine,and often-times humorous. Nevertheless, I have only commented on one other occassion (which included my admiration of your beautiful wife and son – and CONGRATS on your pending arrival!)as I am not afforded the opportunity to post comments as often as I desire. I am a wife, mom, grandmom (“grammy” to my grandson, Elijah) and a professional with a very demanding job. Needless to say, my plate gets full. But I do want to take this opportunity to give you major KUDOS for your correpondence. Continue to keep us informed. Also, I wish you the absolute best in your musicianship!

    Comment by Chele | October 18, 2007 | Reply

  5. I’ve been reading your columns, too. I love your writing. Usually it’s on the Blog Surfer, so you might not see it come up as a hit. Sorry about that. I don’t mean it to be discouraging.

    I don’t have much to say about music, because I don’t know that business at all. I can read music and play the trumpet, but only for fun (and occasionally for church).

    Tell you what, though … I’m on my church worship team (where I put lyrics on the screen up front … nothing that requires real musical talent), and I’ll talk to my worship minister to see if he has any ideas that might be useful.He was in the music business for a while, he writes, and he might have ideas. I’ll see if I can send him this way.

    By the way, I’m not the sales guy, either. It was my job to sell whole life policies for a few months. After those few months of making no money ’cause I never sold anything, I spent a year and a half driving a linen and mat delivery truck.

    I guess what I’m saying is that I’m going to be no help … hmmm … I’ll stop this comment now so I don’t waste any more of your time. 😉

    Comment by wickle | October 18, 2007 | Reply

  6. Uh oh! You’ve done it now! I’m gonna be ovah here EVERYDAY! You’ll get sick of me.

    Seriously — you are an EXTREME encouragement. It’s refreshing to “meet” somebody, who still cares about doctrine, and “rightness”. You don’t come across that very often. It’s either the crazies, “All folks who read non-King James bibles are hell bound!”, or the spiritual “pacifists”, “Now, let’s not JUDGE! Let’s pray and be silent…”

    We’re in a WAR — and I’m not talkin’ about this Bush mess, either. We need to pray, but we need to speak the truth, in love, and let the chips fall. “Truth” needs no “anointing”. It’s got enough power, by virtue of its name.

    So, Derrick, I’ll be hanging out here, a lot more — AND not only commenting on the pulpit pimps. I LOVE music, so…

    Comment by anappygirl | October 18, 2007 | Reply

  7. Rob, Chele, Wickle, and anappygirl, I can’t tell you how much your encouragement helped me! I didn’t expect such a swift response! I was out of town yesterday evening on a gig, so I couldn’t respond as timely as I wanted to. This gesture on all of your part was greatly edifying for my spirits.

    As I told Missy, I wasn’t looking for glory so much as an indication that I was somewhat capable of conveying a thought in some original way. (that is why I try to make the titles of each one a humorous maxim, or catchy adage. Hence the blog name. I am grateful for the time you took to read all the words, and to respond, which indicates a kind of commitment.

    As far as the music goes, I guess prayer for guidance, opportunity, effective equipment, and practice time would be the best thing.

    I’m just completely blown away! I’m thankful to God for you guys and for what small part He has allowed me to play in – hopefully- spurring people to read the Bible like a BOOK, to laugh, and to think about the social problems that plague us. I’ve NEVER done anything like this, and it is wonderful to see that even a pinky fingernail in the body of Christ has a purpose. God bless you all! Derrick.

    Rob! Thanks, man! Sorry I missed your call!

    Comment by maxdaddy | October 19, 2007 | Reply

  8. I like your blogging style i don’t comment alot but just like to read. Keep up the good work. But if you post something that i feel i can chime in on i will.

    Comment by Ann Brock | October 20, 2007 | Reply

  9. P.S. Don’t stop doing what your are doing.

    Comment by Ann Brock | October 20, 2007 | Reply

  10. Thanks, Ann! I see you here a lot and I appreciate it. I visit your site often, too.

    Comment by maxdaddy | October 20, 2007 | Reply

  11. Uncabo,

    I read your entry’s all the time and have often passed your site on to friends and co-workers and we are all encouraged by your words. I must admit a few times we’ve had to pull out a dictonary or thesaurus to help us understand the words (you go Big Bro). I am so proud of you and the work you do and for you sharing your thoughts.

    Keep it up. Who knew growing up you had all this inside?!!!!!

    Love you Bo,


    Comment by Suntu | October 23, 2007 | Reply

  12. Thanks, sister!

    Comment by maxdaddy | October 23, 2007 | Reply

  13. Sweet friend,
    You know that we think you are seriously gifted. I am praying hard that God will bring the right person at the right time to help you to go further in this journey you are on. It is such an honor to have your family in our lives. We all love you!

    Comment by kiralisa | October 23, 2007 | Reply

  14. We love you all, too, Lisa! Thanks so much for everything you do for Kathy, Max, and me. Thanks even more for your prayers. Y’all are made out of the GOOD stuff!

    Comment by maxdaddy | October 23, 2007 | Reply

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